I saw a silly meme once that riffed off of Forest Gump's line about chocolate. It said something along the likes of "Not everyone is going to like you, your not a box of chocolate". That line has stayed with me and resonated with me quite a bit lately. Earlier in my life, my emotions would rise and fall with each hurtful or helpful comment. I can still remember things people said in an off-the-cuff mark - the sting of those words left their mark.
As I grow older and more comfortable in my skin, I try to remember I can't please everyone. Not everyone has to like me. It's ok.... I am not a box of chocolate. I have tried to be true to what I believe, to show people basic human kindness and decency. I have turned the proverbial other cheek. I have bitten my tongue more times than I can count.
Sometimes I lose the battle with this one. I am a pleaser by nature... a nurturer, a I want to fix you and help you kind of person. Having people like me goes along with that, my psyche needs that reassurance. Today, I lost the battle. I let the actions of someone else, get me down. I am replaying and replaying the conversation in my mind.... what could I have done, what could I have said differently.... did I do something wrong? My stomach is in knots, my head is killing me, and I am so down.
You know what... it's on the other person... I am not taking their negativity. I am not going to rise and fall on someone else's words or actions. Logically, I know that I didn't do anything wrong or with bad intentions. Not everyone has to like me - I am not a box of chocolate.